tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6729359974426571273.post2029214390075214224..comments2023-05-14T03:24:56.671-05:00Comments on The Eclectic Mom: "Parent/Teen Breakthrough"Eclectic Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02597025645225619813noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6729359974426571273.post-7626616773807232812009-07-29T00:21:20.251-05:002009-07-29T00:21:20.251-05:00Hey Tonya! I like what you said about kids being e...Hey Tonya! I like what you said about kids being easy to work WITH instead of against when they're respected. That's a really good way to look at it.<br />And I'm with you ... I'll take a house full of teens (even though we're just stepping into that world) over one more 3yo too! I was at a meeting of AP leaders, and most of them had young kids. Many were surprised when I said that I found being an AP parent was MUCH easier with older kids than little ones--at least for me.Eclectic Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02597025645225619813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6729359974426571273.post-88995292605707929672009-07-28T23:03:34.320-05:002009-07-28T23:03:34.320-05:00I have three teenagers (18 in 3 weeks, 15 and 15)....I have three teenagers (18 in 3 weeks, 15 and 15). Like you said, we've been focused on being respectful and treating them like real people since birth. While we've had a few challenges, for the most part our kids have always been respectful in return and easy to work WITH, not against. And most definitely, the teenage years are easier to handle than toddlerhood. I'd take a house full of teens before I'd take one more 3-year-old.tonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07075940501366330113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6729359974426571273.post-22954393980776703112009-07-28T11:58:55.934-05:002009-07-28T11:58:55.934-05:00Hi Camille, Another perspective for you on this. T...Hi Camille, Another perspective for you on this. Teenagers are not such a huge issue in India, or atleast were not, when I was growing up. Not as huge as here. I think it has a lot to do with the culture being more community / extended-family focussed (here, we're all socialized to become an individual, so much, and in India, we're socialized about suppressing that individual). I am not saying one is better than the other at all. The teenage years though, being so difficult, in this culture, has something to do with this. I remember feeling respected for my feelings by my parents, and did not feel very rebellious as a teenager. I started paying a lot more attention to the "individual" in me, after moving to America...it was a sudden realization - I was supposed to be an individual, I was supposed to have an ego! And it felt good. This's far more complex than I can write about here, but a perspective for you to think about...that the teenager is not yet seeking independence, in other cultures.Deepahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09633346176486358667noreply@blogger.com